WHY I CAN NEVER FEED SOMEBODY'S CHILD
WHY I CAN NEVER FEED SOMEBODY'S CHILD
Written by Sharon Ata-Akpan
No matter what, I can never feed somebody's child.
I was eating and this baby who is so fond of me was just staring at me, I could remember her guardian calling her out of my place when she saw her standing by my side when I was about eating.
The baby girl actually refused to leave so I continued eating my food and then this guy happened to walk into the office to make inquiry at the same time.
So as he saw me eating, he asked why I am not giving the child the food? So I told him that this is 9am and I am very sure the child mother fed the child before dropping her off with the other lady and also the
child is not hungry. I didn't want to talk much.So the guy said I should look at the way the child is staring at me that she just wants to eat the food even if she is not hungry that I should give her small to eat, so I told him I am not giving her and it's just a food I bought from a vendor which ofcourse is not even enough for me, I didn't cook it myself, and he said I am stingy and I said "yes! let me be stingy and save myself the stress", And he asked what stress am I talking about?
I told him I can't feed the child without the parents permission but he concluded that it was nothing. It was obvious that he didn't understand my reasons for not giving the child my food so I explained to him and I kept on insisting that I can never feed anybody's child except my blood or relatives.
I shared the experience I had concerning being a good Samaritan to him. Although, I didn't have to experience it myself but I learnt a very big lesson from the
events that unfolded, because when it happens, so many people would not believe you even the very person that once laughed with you would turn to your sworn enemy especially as you never born your own pikin yet.Something happened in February in one of the shops in my neighborhood, a lady fed her neighbor's child without the mother's knowledge and when they child mother later went home with the child, the child suddenly developed a serious ailment and was taken to the hospital at the eleventh hour and after test was conducted, they discovered that the child was poisoned.
So when they started investigating, the child mother narrated everything down to the meals that they ate and that she fed her alongside her siblings.
She recounted that she didn't cook Beans in her house through out the week and she didn't feed her children Rice or Beans on that day so where did the Beans and Rice came from because the baby vomited Beans and Rice.
That was when the second child because she has 3 children and it was the youngest one that was affected, so the second child told them that it was Aunty in the shop that gave their sister Rice and Beans to eat.
The next morning, the woman landed in the shop with Police and they arrested this lady for interrogation.
According to what we heard, this lady narrated everything to them that she didn't poison the food, that she bought the food from a food vendor, ate the food and remained, then since the child is always hanging around her and she when wanted eating the remaining food, she decided to feed the child with the food instead because she felt the child was hungry.
She pleaded that she was innocent and she would never poison somebody's child and besides it's not her first time of giving that child her food.
Then where did the poison came from? because the lady ate that same food but nothing happened to her and so to vindicate herself, she told them to go to the waste basket in her shop that while feeding the child, some of the food dropped on the floor and she deposited them in her waste basket that
the child might have been poisoned somewhere else not her.Unknowingly to her that she further implicated herself with gross evidence because when they took the food in the waste basket for clinical findings, the result showed that even the discarded food particles was poisoned.
Now who would have poisoned that food? because if this accused lady actually poisoned that food, she wouldn't have requested for the one in the waste basket to be tested.
As I'm talking to you now, that child died and it became a murder case but this lady was still crying and pleading that she was innocent but there was absolutely nothing to do about it because it was now a matter of life and death and she actually admitted that she fed the child Rice and Beans at so so time and it was actually the poison from that food that killed that baby.
Just maybe, someone else walked into her shop without her knowledge and poisoned the food in the flask in order to kill her but the baby became a victim and now she is about going to jail.
I personally learned my lesson that day and yes you can call me anything you wish, I don't care but I can never give anybody's child something to eat, so that if anything happen, they won't ask, "what did the child eat? where did the child eat? who gave the child food?" Because this is the first thing that usually comes into the mind when situations like this begin to downplay.
Even as an adult, you would agree with me that if suddenly you
begin having serious stomach pains after eating somewhere, you would start thinking if you have been poisoned.So like this, I don't want to be responsible for a crime I didn't commit. This life I'm living is sweet for me o! No matter the shege in this country it is better to be free than cooling off in jail because when it happens, the narrative would change and nobody would remember that you were only trying to be nice so enough is enough.
You need to see and hear what people talked. Everybody would just leave you behind o!
Let me remain stingy before my good deeds turn to a weapon fashioned against me. Let me eat alone so if anything happens, I know how to find my square root.
12 SIGNS YOU ARE REALLY A LOVELY PERSON ACCORDING TO PSYCHOLOGY
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Written by Paul Brian
Many lovely people have a big trait in common:
They’re humble!
They don’t think they’re the bee’s knees, or even all that remarkable at all. But they are.
Are you one of these wonderful people who doesn’t quite realize just how wonderful you are?
Let’s delve into the top behaviors of people with wonderful personalities, behaviors that you already possess and can further develop to enhance your charm and magnetism.
1) You truly care
You genuinely care for others, demonstrating empathy in a world often marked by selfishness.
It’s not that you’re trying to prove anything or get brownie points at all. It’s just who you are.
You let your sincerity shine through, making you stand out in a sea of indifference, and people notice and value that about you.
“Empathy is a complex capability enabling individuals to understand and feel the emotional states of others, resulting in compassionate behavior.
Empathy requires cognitive, emotional, behavioral, and moral capacities to understand and respond to the suffering of others.”
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2) You’re empathetic at a deep level
You continuously cultivate your intuitive understanding of others feeling and it’s the way you’ve always been.
As far as you know there’s nothing special at all about this:
It’s just a natural way to be that you care about what other people are going through and want to offer them understanding and fellowship.
You can also tell when a person needs you to draw away a bit instead of getting closer, giving them space and time to themselves to work through some issues.
3) You hear people out without judging
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You’re more than just a “good listener,” you’re a great listener who values what other people say to you and is able to hear it without jumping to conclusions.
You don’t always have the answers, but you do have the time to be there for those you care about.
Your exceptional listening skills already make you a great friend and partner.
You don’t just hear words, but understand underlying emotions and unspoken messages, a quality others admire in you.
“Non-judgemental listening is about giving the speaker an opportunity to talk through their problems, it is not about telling them what to do or what not to do,” points out Lucy Oakes.
“Allow them the chance to work through the problem themselves in an accepting environment.”
4) You bring humor even to hard situations
Your gift for humor brightens any room with well-timed jokes and witty observations.
You’re far from the class clown, but you do make an effort to brighten up your environment and to be a ray of sunshine for those going through a hard time.
Psychology notes the many ways in which laughing is good for us and how laughter between friends creates bonding and commonality: this is something you bring to the table.
You effortlessly bring Joy and lighteness to those around you, a trait that defines your personality.
5) Infectiously enthusiastic
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Your genuine enthusiasm for life is contagious and you bring this to those around you every day.
You have “off days” of course. Your temper flares up, maybe you get very down sometimes.
But your main setting is one of “let’s do this!”
To you it’s normal: isn’t everybody like this? They are not!
You infuse energy into any situation, inspiring others to embrace life with vigor, a quality that draws people naturally.
6) You have your own unique style
You already exude charisma with your unique flair and panache
You’re not beholden to any particular trend or zeitgeist, but you are dedicated to your own unique style and expressing yourself through the way you dress, act and comport yourself.
Your mannerisms, fashion sense, and lifestyle choices add vibrancy to your surroundings, making you truly memorable to those around you.
As style consultant Sofiya Levina explains, her method for developing a personal style is based on psychologist, Carl Jung's 22 main archetype.
“Carl Jung introduced 12 archetypes or identities that are defined as universal, archaic symbols and images that derive from the collective unconscious. In simple terms, an archetype is a role that you play in your life.
Each archetype corresponds to a certain stylistic image, with the help of which, you make it clear to those around you who you are.”
7) Compelling storyteller and entertainer
You captivate others with your knack for storytelling and your anecdotes that you bring up easily during conversations
People are entranced by the way you bring humor and small details into what you say and tell stories that really make them feel like they’re living through the experience.
Your tales leave listeners wanting more, making you a popular and sought-after individual.
They want to know what happens next! What else happened?
8) You build bridges instead of burning them
You naturally bring people together, and it’s how you’ve always been.
You’d rather cooperate than fight, and you like to help other people see the same perspective about working together.
Your open-mindedness and acceptance create spaces where everyone feels respected and welcomed, fostering unity in a world full of division and polarization.
“Building relationships is key to communicating across differences. We humans are wired for social connection.
Strengthening our social intelligence and interpersonal skills is integral to moving toward mutual understanding,”
9) Direct without being harsh or cruel
Your authenticity is an attractive quality and you don’t censor yourself or hold back.
You tell the truth even when it’s unpleasant or not particularly politically correct.
You’re not out for shock value or to offend anyone, nor do you enjoy being cruel or salacious: but you will say what you think and do so in no uncertain terms whether or not most people agree.
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You speak your mind respectfully, earning respect and admiration for your honesty and straightforwardness, including even from those who honestly disagree with you or believe some of your views may be incorrect.
10) Strong work ethic and confidence
You approach life with confidence and work hard to achieve your goals.
You inspire others to do the same, raising the bar for everyone around you with your determination.
You work hard and play hard, and the way you tackle every project with all of your energy and enthusiasm really gets other people rallying around you as well.
You’re gifted at clarifying and upholding a mission for folks so that they can see the big picture vision and join in with a sense of belonging and solidarity as well.
11) Respectful and reciprocal
Treating others with dignity and respect is second nature to you.
You give respect and you expect the same in return.
Your sincerity and honesty form meaningful connections that deepen over time, but it’s something that’s always just been the way you roll.
Your friendships, romances and even work relationships are all based on real respect and reciprocity.
“Respect is recognizing someone else’s humanity or personhood. It is seeking to listen to and understand the other person. It is ensuring one does not see other people as mere means to an end.”
12) You help others navigate transition and change
You embrace life’s inevitable changes with resilience and grace, but it’s not just about you:
You also love to help others find their way through life’s twists and turns as well. Having gone through many ups and downs yourself, you don’t judge people by the struggles they’re going through:
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Instead, you seek to serve as a source of stability and support for those around you during times of transition.
And in the process your own self-awareness and internal self-love also increases.
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